… So here’s another thing I will whip out if I want to mess up my potential future kids. I’m pretty sure the list of “Tools for psychological experiments on children” that I’m unofficially making has grown quite long during the last year. Now, this video starts off as a normal pretentious children’s show, but make sure you watch until the end.
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Here’s a little thought about people and apologies.
I don’t care that some apologies are just a product of abiding good manners. If someone bumps in to me at the train station and give me a quick “I’m sorry” then I’m sure I wouldn’t think twice about whether the person actually gave a damn or whether they were just keen on avoiding a confrontation.
When someone you actually care about does something idiotic, it does matter why they suddenly get remorseful. Saying you’re sorry is just semantics. It doesn’t tell me anything about whether the person intends to change the behaviour that caused the hurt in the first place. Here’s a few possible reasons that I believe would cause a person to apologize about something they technically don’t regret doing:
1) They know you’re angry and somehow you being angry interferes with their life in some way.
2) Not apologizing would make them look like an asshole.
3. The worst one. Self-righteous assholes who have to gain your forgivness by any means to convince themselves that they are good people. They know they have done something wrong, and while they might do it all over again they aren’t above telling you things they don’t mean and press your buttons to try and find a way to emotionally manipulate you into saying “It’s OK; I forgive you”. The funny part is that whatever they did might not have been that bad to begin with, but the totally transparent way they try to get to your good side again just moves them from the “Potentially a jerk”-category to “Complete douche”-category in my brain.
It’s these things that makes me think about the advantages of playing more stupid than you actually are. If people think they’re smarter than you, they won’t put as much effort in deceiving you. They believe you can’t possibly see through their act while they’re unconsciously revealing their true colours.
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Sometimes I think about whether I’d rather live a meaningful life or a happy one.
I know those things usually are connected, but if you could hypothetically separate them, what would you choose? I think unhappy people in general achieve much greater things, because they simply have more reason to. They have causes because they aren’t satisfied with the way things are. Obviously there’s unhappy people who never amount to anything, or never even tries, but would a completely happy person ever try to achieve something? And is it possible to have the strength to lead a meaningful life when it will never give the person who lives it happiness?
A clarification: by meaningful, I mean e.g. contributing to a better world, either through physical labor or research that will make people’s living conditions better. Relationships can also be meaningful but lack happiness. I’d say understanding oneself and which theological belief one has, is also meaningful.
A meaningful life could for example be: You have a cause (like anti-racism, ending world poverty, converting people to a religion, advancing science) and work hard to achieve this cause. Your hard work has an effect, but you remain miserable. You find a significant other, get children, and work hard to perserve their happiness. You love your family, but your worries about the world never goes away, you see inequalities, moral corruption, dangers and after a while you simply become accustomed to being miserable. Since you can’t make yourself happy, you dedicate your life to fixing the problems that make you unhappy. Your cause has now expanded to making sure your family is safe and fulfilled on top of working towards a better world. Even though your life is devoid of enjoyment, you view staying alive as a duty towards the world and your family, so suicide is not an option. You live this way for the remainder of your life, and lives to see several of your efforts make a difference in the people around you and the world as a whole. When you finally die, your one, last feeling is similar to the one you feel when you go to sleep after a day of very hard, but rewarding work.
A happy life could e.g be this: You’re born into a loving family and have a normal childhood. You have a lot of friends in school and get fairly OK grades when you graduate. Your interests are mostly in things that doesn’t require that much mental activity: listening to music, watching TV, watching sports, but mostly just having fun with your friends and significant other. You work in some different jobs before you get married and have a kid, which is when you decide to settle at a job at an office with OK pay. You don’t think much about death, war or injustice, and since you feel unable to change these things anyway you make an effort not to think about them more than necessary. You go through life feeling quite content with your house, car, family, friends and work. You feel safety in your everyday routines. When your parents eventually die, you already have grandchildren and a strong social network that helps you cope. You have a consistant theological faith that comforts you when times are rough. You live to be a great-grand parent with many friends, and this is to great pride to you even though you haven’t contributed much to the world. You die without ever conteplated in depth your own morals, faith or importance, but you die happy.
So what would you choose?